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Thursday, November 13, 2008
Tips membangun hubungan 3
Komunikasi.
Definisi komunikasi adalah menyampaikan pesan secara jelas agar pendengar mengerti maksud yang ingin disampaikan.
Salah satu kebenaran yang ada ketika menjalin hubungan adalah sebuah asumsi bisa membahayakan hubungan, karena asumsi adalah tingkat kebenaran yang paling rendah.
Contoh : Anda dan pasangan anda berjanji untuk mendiskusikan rencana pernikahan anda kepada teman-teman panitia satu minggu lagi. Jika sang pria berkata "ok saya akan hubungi teman-teman saya" dan sang wanita berkata "ok saya juga akan menghubungi teman-teman saya".
Menurut kalian apakah yang terjadi jika sang wanita menghubungi langsung malam itu juga sedangkan sang pria baru menghubungi teman-temannya sehari sebelum pertemuan.
Tentu tidak ada masalah , tetapi jika banyak dari teman-teman pria tidak bisa karena mendadak diberitahu jadwalnya , apakah yang kira-kira terjadi ?
Pasti akan ada perselisihan
"kenapa kamu baru bilang sehari sebelumnya ?" , tanya sang wanita.
"Saya kan tidak janji langsung bilang, tetapi saya hanya kan memberitahu teman-teman .",
sahut si pria tidak mau kalah.
Apakah yang terjadi ? adanya asumsi dari kedua belah pihak bahwa kebiasaan mereka pasti sama dengan kebiasaannya pasangannya.
Padahal seringkali berbeda dan tidak jarang mengakibatkan konflik.
Jadi ada sebuah tips jika anda pernah mengalami hal ini.
1. Pada saat kalian pernah konflik , jangan langsung baikan tanpa mengerti duduk permasalahannya . Ambillah kebaikan dari sebuah konflik , yaitu kalian bisa saling mengenal kebiasaan masing-masing.
2. Buat aturan main.
Jika konflik maka biasaanya kita langsung ingin menumpahkan kemarahan tanpa mau mendengar. Nah mulai biasakan untuk buat aturan main ,jika satu sedang bicara maka satu harus mendengar. Ini memang tidak mudah , tetapi dengan begitu kalian bisa mulai membangun hubungan dengan nilai-nilai yang baik.
3. Tidak ada yang menang atau kalah, jika konflik terus maka keduanya kalah.
Biasanya ego-lah yang menyebabkan tidak mau mengakui salah , karena dianggap pecundang. Akibatnya konflik tidak selesai , menganggap diri yang paling benar dan tidak mau memaafkan. Ketahuilah bahwa jika konflik tidak mau diselesaikan maka keduanya yang kalah karena sesungguhnya hubungan kalian itu sangat berharga dan mungkin kalian akan kehilangan hal yang sangat berharga dalam hidup kalian.
Demikian tips dari saya.
Definisi komunikasi adalah menyampaikan pesan secara jelas agar pendengar mengerti maksud yang ingin disampaikan.
Salah satu kebenaran yang ada ketika menjalin hubungan adalah sebuah asumsi bisa membahayakan hubungan, karena asumsi adalah tingkat kebenaran yang paling rendah.
Contoh : Anda dan pasangan anda berjanji untuk mendiskusikan rencana pernikahan anda kepada teman-teman panitia satu minggu lagi. Jika sang pria berkata "ok saya akan hubungi teman-teman saya" dan sang wanita berkata "ok saya juga akan menghubungi teman-teman saya".
Menurut kalian apakah yang terjadi jika sang wanita menghubungi langsung malam itu juga sedangkan sang pria baru menghubungi teman-temannya sehari sebelum pertemuan.
Tentu tidak ada masalah , tetapi jika banyak dari teman-teman pria tidak bisa karena mendadak diberitahu jadwalnya , apakah yang kira-kira terjadi ?
Pasti akan ada perselisihan
"kenapa kamu baru bilang sehari sebelumnya ?" , tanya sang wanita.
"Saya kan tidak janji langsung bilang, tetapi saya hanya kan memberitahu teman-teman .",
sahut si pria tidak mau kalah.
Apakah yang terjadi ? adanya asumsi dari kedua belah pihak bahwa kebiasaan mereka pasti sama dengan kebiasaannya pasangannya.
Padahal seringkali berbeda dan tidak jarang mengakibatkan konflik.
Jadi ada sebuah tips jika anda pernah mengalami hal ini.
1. Pada saat kalian pernah konflik , jangan langsung baikan tanpa mengerti duduk permasalahannya . Ambillah kebaikan dari sebuah konflik , yaitu kalian bisa saling mengenal kebiasaan masing-masing.
2. Buat aturan main.
Jika konflik maka biasaanya kita langsung ingin menumpahkan kemarahan tanpa mau mendengar. Nah mulai biasakan untuk buat aturan main ,jika satu sedang bicara maka satu harus mendengar. Ini memang tidak mudah , tetapi dengan begitu kalian bisa mulai membangun hubungan dengan nilai-nilai yang baik.
3. Tidak ada yang menang atau kalah, jika konflik terus maka keduanya kalah.
Biasanya ego-lah yang menyebabkan tidak mau mengakui salah , karena dianggap pecundang. Akibatnya konflik tidak selesai , menganggap diri yang paling benar dan tidak mau memaafkan. Ketahuilah bahwa jika konflik tidak mau diselesaikan maka keduanya yang kalah karena sesungguhnya hubungan kalian itu sangat berharga dan mungkin kalian akan kehilangan hal yang sangat berharga dalam hidup kalian.
Demikian tips dari saya.
Friday, November 7, 2008
Tips membangun hubungan 2
Keluarga.
Ada orang-orang yang memiliki pikiran bahwa dalam hubungan itu yang penting
kesepakatan berdua saja. Kalau menurut saya hal ini tidak tepat apabila kita
belum menikah, jika sudah menikah maka yang menentukan adalah suami -istri
itu sendiri apapun pendapat orang lain.
Namun yang menjadi kebanyakan orang muda adalah memakai prinsip ini pada
awal menjalin hubungan yang serius, mereka tidak bertanya dahulu apa pendapat
dari orang tua mengenai calonnya itu, bahkan yang lebih ekstrem adalah jika
sampai rela ninggalin orang tua karena calonnya itu.
Padahal restu orang tua adalah penting. Pertama, Tuhan yang sudah nitipin kita
pada mereka untuk dijaga, jadi mereka pasti tahu secara naluri apabila
ada hal-hal didepan yang membahayakan kita.
Kedua kamu juga bisa lihat hal ini, jika sama orang tua saja yang seumur hidupnya
selalu bersama dan calon kita rela ninggalin orang tua demi kita yang mungkin
baru dikenal beberapa tahun, maka mungkin saja ketika nanti kalian jadian maka
dia akan pergi juga dengan orang yang baru dia kenal, jadi
jangan anggap hal seperti itu romantis, tetapi waspadalah ada benih yg tidak
baik pada orang tersebut. (tetapi ini adalah pendapat saya pribadi)
Ketiga
Justru melalui keluarganya kamu bisa lihat seperti apa sebenarnya calon kamu ini.
Apakah dia orangnya rapih , bertanggung jawab .. dan sesuai dengan apa yang ditampilkan
di depan kamu.
Tapi jangan dulu datang ke keluarganya bila kamu masih mau menimbang-nimbang , datanglah
dengan teman-teman kamu dan dia ... jadi kamu juga jangan memberi angin.
So .. kira-kira itu tips kedua yang saya kira dapat memberikan gambaran tentang bagaimana
membangun hubungan.
Tunggu tips saya berikutnya.
Ada orang-orang yang memiliki pikiran bahwa dalam hubungan itu yang penting
kesepakatan berdua saja. Kalau menurut saya hal ini tidak tepat apabila kita
belum menikah, jika sudah menikah maka yang menentukan adalah suami -istri
itu sendiri apapun pendapat orang lain.
Namun yang menjadi kebanyakan orang muda adalah memakai prinsip ini pada
awal menjalin hubungan yang serius, mereka tidak bertanya dahulu apa pendapat
dari orang tua mengenai calonnya itu, bahkan yang lebih ekstrem adalah jika
sampai rela ninggalin orang tua karena calonnya itu.
Padahal restu orang tua adalah penting. Pertama, Tuhan yang sudah nitipin kita
pada mereka untuk dijaga, jadi mereka pasti tahu secara naluri apabila
ada hal-hal didepan yang membahayakan kita.
Kedua kamu juga bisa lihat hal ini, jika sama orang tua saja yang seumur hidupnya
selalu bersama dan calon kita rela ninggalin orang tua demi kita yang mungkin
baru dikenal beberapa tahun, maka mungkin saja ketika nanti kalian jadian maka
dia akan pergi juga dengan orang yang baru dia kenal, jadi
jangan anggap hal seperti itu romantis, tetapi waspadalah ada benih yg tidak
baik pada orang tersebut. (tetapi ini adalah pendapat saya pribadi)
Ketiga
Justru melalui keluarganya kamu bisa lihat seperti apa sebenarnya calon kamu ini.
Apakah dia orangnya rapih , bertanggung jawab .. dan sesuai dengan apa yang ditampilkan
di depan kamu.
Tapi jangan dulu datang ke keluarganya bila kamu masih mau menimbang-nimbang , datanglah
dengan teman-teman kamu dan dia ... jadi kamu juga jangan memberi angin.
So .. kira-kira itu tips kedua yang saya kira dapat memberikan gambaran tentang bagaimana
membangun hubungan.
Tunggu tips saya berikutnya.
Tips membangun hubungan (1 .. sambungan)
Terus apalagi yang bisa dilihat dari calon kamu melalui komunitasnya ?
Jika kamu mau lihat apakah dia ini setia , maka kamu bisa lihat dari
pendapat sahabat-sahabatnya tentang calon kamu itu.
Pendapat orang yg terdekat sama dia adlah pendapat yang terjujur ,
karena dari sisi waktu dan jangka waktu kenalan juga pasti
sahabat-sahabatnya lebih mengenal sifat dan karakter calon pasangan
kamu ini, tetapi sambil dilihat juga ya ... jangan sembarang temannya
kamu nanya , tanya dengan sahabatnya yang kamu lihat juga jujur dan memang
sahabat sejati yang kalau bilang salah adalah salah dan benar adalah benar.
Saya pernah bertemu dengan orang yang punya sahabat hanya
memberitahukan hal-hal yang baik saja.
Jika kamu tidak bisa menemukan , maka agaknya ini warning awal buat kamu ..
calon kamu itu seperti apa ya sifatnya sampai mempunyai sahabat org seperti ini ?
Saya bukannya mengajarkan pilih-pilih teman , tetapi orang jujur pasti
lebih suka bergaul dengan orang jujur, Makanya saya menyebut kata sahabat.
Sahabat artinya lebih dalam dari sekedar teman biasa.
Dan suatu saat jika kamu jadian kan kamu juga perlu bergaul dengan sahabat
-sahabat calon kamu itu.
Jadi sebelum kamu memutuskan lebih baik kenali dulu calon kamu ini
melalui sahabat-sahabatnya.
Jangan terjebak dengan perkataan "Ribet amat .. kan dicoba dulu jadian,
kalo cocok nbaru terusin". Jika kamu berfikir seperti itu, maka ingat
dalam membangun hubungan itu membutuhkkan waktu, perasaan dan uang
dan hal itu tidak bisa dikembalikan .
Ingat pepatah "Emas murni itu ditemukan setelah dibakar dalam 7 kali
perapian." , jika gampang ditemukan maka anda sendiri yang bisa
menyimpulkannya.
Jika kamu mau lihat apakah dia ini setia , maka kamu bisa lihat dari
pendapat sahabat-sahabatnya tentang calon kamu itu.
Pendapat orang yg terdekat sama dia adlah pendapat yang terjujur ,
karena dari sisi waktu dan jangka waktu kenalan juga pasti
sahabat-sahabatnya lebih mengenal sifat dan karakter calon pasangan
kamu ini, tetapi sambil dilihat juga ya ... jangan sembarang temannya
kamu nanya , tanya dengan sahabatnya yang kamu lihat juga jujur dan memang
sahabat sejati yang kalau bilang salah adalah salah dan benar adalah benar.
Saya pernah bertemu dengan orang yang punya sahabat hanya
memberitahukan hal-hal yang baik saja.
Jika kamu tidak bisa menemukan , maka agaknya ini warning awal buat kamu ..
calon kamu itu seperti apa ya sifatnya sampai mempunyai sahabat org seperti ini ?
Saya bukannya mengajarkan pilih-pilih teman , tetapi orang jujur pasti
lebih suka bergaul dengan orang jujur, Makanya saya menyebut kata sahabat.
Sahabat artinya lebih dalam dari sekedar teman biasa.
Dan suatu saat jika kamu jadian kan kamu juga perlu bergaul dengan sahabat
-sahabat calon kamu itu.
Jadi sebelum kamu memutuskan lebih baik kenali dulu calon kamu ini
melalui sahabat-sahabatnya.
Jangan terjebak dengan perkataan "Ribet amat .. kan dicoba dulu jadian,
kalo cocok nbaru terusin". Jika kamu berfikir seperti itu, maka ingat
dalam membangun hubungan itu membutuhkkan waktu, perasaan dan uang
dan hal itu tidak bisa dikembalikan .
Ingat pepatah "Emas murni itu ditemukan setelah dibakar dalam 7 kali
perapian." , jika gampang ditemukan maka anda sendiri yang bisa
menyimpulkannya.
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Tips Membangun Hubungan
Topik membangun hubungan yang baik dengan lawan jenis seringkali menjadi problem. Apalagi apabila berkaitan dengan .. apakah dia yang tepat ? Kita tidak pernah bisa memilih dengan siapa kita akan bertemu. Tetapi kita bisa mempunyai pilihan ketika akan menentukan dengan siapa kita akan membangun hubungan yg serius. Menurut saya ada beberapa hal yang perlu di perhatikan, tapi sekarang saya akan bahas satu hal ini dulu :
Komunitas membantu untuk membuka topeng-topeng,
Syerem ya ? hehehe tetapi benar lho .. ketika sedang suka dengan seseorang maka biasanya yang ditampilkan adalah hal-hal yang terbaik dalam hidup kita.
Apakah pentingnya sebuah komunitas / lingkungan sahabat kamu dan dia ? Maksudnya begini, jika kamu mau melihat dia seperti apa "aslinya" , lihatlah ketika dia sedang bergaul dengan teman-teman dan sahabat-sahabatnya ... biasanya kamu bisa lihat prinsip dan kelakuan calon kamu itu lewat dia bergaul sampai akhirnya kamu bisa nilai , calon kamu itu punya prinsip - prinsip yang baik ga . Contoh , jika kamu mau tahu dia baik .. jangan cuma karena dia suka nganterin kamu aja , lihat juga ..apakah dengan temannya yang mungkin wajahnya tidak seganteng kamu atau secantik kamu , si calon kamu ini tetap mau nganterin atau membantu.
Contoh lain , jika kamu punya tujuan menikah dengan nilai-nilai bertanggung jawab , maka kamu bisa lihat , apakah misalnya di pergaulan teman-temanya itu , si calon kamu ini tepat janji ?
Sebenarnya ada banyak yang kamu bisa lihat, jadi jangan malah ketika sedang ada yang dekatin kamu makanya kalian malah sukanya berdua aja ... bawa dia ke teman-teman kamu dan minta dia juga kenalin kamu ke sahabat-sahabatnya , sehingga kamu bisa melihat seperti apa aslinya calon kamu itu sebelum menentukan.
Okay sampai disini dulu .. nanti saya akan sambung dengan tips yang lain.
Komunitas membantu untuk membuka topeng-topeng,
Syerem ya ? hehehe tetapi benar lho .. ketika sedang suka dengan seseorang maka biasanya yang ditampilkan adalah hal-hal yang terbaik dalam hidup kita.
Apakah pentingnya sebuah komunitas / lingkungan sahabat kamu dan dia ? Maksudnya begini, jika kamu mau melihat dia seperti apa "aslinya" , lihatlah ketika dia sedang bergaul dengan teman-teman dan sahabat-sahabatnya ... biasanya kamu bisa lihat prinsip dan kelakuan calon kamu itu lewat dia bergaul sampai akhirnya kamu bisa nilai , calon kamu itu punya prinsip - prinsip yang baik ga . Contoh , jika kamu mau tahu dia baik .. jangan cuma karena dia suka nganterin kamu aja , lihat juga ..apakah dengan temannya yang mungkin wajahnya tidak seganteng kamu atau secantik kamu , si calon kamu ini tetap mau nganterin atau membantu.
Contoh lain , jika kamu punya tujuan menikah dengan nilai-nilai bertanggung jawab , maka kamu bisa lihat , apakah misalnya di pergaulan teman-temanya itu , si calon kamu ini tepat janji ?
Sebenarnya ada banyak yang kamu bisa lihat, jadi jangan malah ketika sedang ada yang dekatin kamu makanya kalian malah sukanya berdua aja ... bawa dia ke teman-teman kamu dan minta dia juga kenalin kamu ke sahabat-sahabatnya , sehingga kamu bisa melihat seperti apa aslinya calon kamu itu sebelum menentukan.
Okay sampai disini dulu .. nanti saya akan sambung dengan tips yang lain.
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Arti kehidupan
Hidup itu seringkali sangat cepat. Tanpa terasa waktu dan tikungan waktu membuat hari sudah hampir berakhir. Apakah ada kemajuan hari ini ? apakah sudah cukup yang didapat hari ini ? sudah sesuaikah target hidup saya ?
Mungkin tidak ada yang sedetail itu .. tetapi jika ada yang seperti itu dan setiap hari seperti itu, maka mungkin kau perlu sebuah istirahat. Stop dan lihat apa yang saat ini kamu miliki . Kamu bukan hanya memiliki target, tetapi juga memiliki kehidupan.
Kadang kala target dan target yang dikejar akhirnya mengaburkan arti kehidupan itu sendiri.
Mungkin tidak ada yang sedetail itu .. tetapi jika ada yang seperti itu dan setiap hari seperti itu, maka mungkin kau perlu sebuah istirahat. Stop dan lihat apa yang saat ini kamu miliki . Kamu bukan hanya memiliki target, tetapi juga memiliki kehidupan.
Kadang kala target dan target yang dikejar akhirnya mengaburkan arti kehidupan itu sendiri.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Price of an Anger
Have you buy something that the price is so expensive but did not
reflect the quality ? Watch that store said original guaranteed , but after
you arrive at home, you find out that watch is not original. House that
build with a second materials, but the price is like a penthouse. Price is
so expensive but did not reflect the quality.
What is your feelings if you were in that position ? Upset, anger, not mood ,
I guess that a positive feelings is not in the first place , right ?
Maybe while you were read this article, you said that you're not the one that
buy an expensive stuff with a low quality. But in the fact, maybe you are more
trapped than you are thinking.
It feel perfect right ? A revenge that bring a happiness ? I must admit , it
feels good ... but after that, you and I must be ready to pay more than you get.
reflect the quality ? Watch that store said original guaranteed , but after
you arrive at home, you find out that watch is not original. House that
build with a second materials, but the price is like a penthouse. Price is
so expensive but did not reflect the quality.
What is your feelings if you were in that position ? Upset, anger, not mood ,
I guess that a positive feelings is not in the first place , right ?
Maybe while you were read this article, you said that you're not the one that
buy an expensive stuff with a low quality. But in the fact, maybe you are more
trapped than you are thinking.
The mostly expensive thing that you and I bought but did not reflect the
quality is an anger.
If you were in anger, what do you feel or thinking about ?
“Hm, now you know that I'm serious”, with a smile of victory.
“I told you ... don't play a game with me .”, with a grumble
“Now , i'm happy .”, with a fist in the air.
“Go ahead , I don't need you anyway “, with a sight of anger.
It feel perfect right ? A revenge that bring a happiness ? I must admit , it
feels good ... but after that, you and I must be ready to pay more than you get.
An anger husband, paid that anger with a broken relationship with his wife.
A young man that anger, lost his truly best friend.
An employee that anger with his supervisor, lost his job.
Someone that anger with himself, paid with lost all of his potential that he had.
An emotional man , stuck in the prison cause his anger consume his mind.
I'm not saying we can't made because mad is something that God created before.
But there is a difference between anger and a habit to anger. If anger has
become your character , I think that man must be ready . The debt is more than
you can imagine.
God provide one way to release you from that kind of anger. The price is expensive, but it is equal and even more than you paid. God said you need to release your life to get a life.
Silent is Golden ?
Have you ever hear about silent is golden ? I've heard about this when
my friend was asked to tell about his life experienced. He is not tell us anything
, not because he isn't had any experiences, but because he said "this is just for me,
nothing special was happened in my life."
I know the truth in the bible, that GOD has plan for each of people that love
HIM and HIS desire is for every HIS child live in that plan. HIS plan is not just the
ordinary plan, but it is something that extraordinary. Wanna see proof ? Ask Jesus,
How come GOD himself make a way for every one that have sin to be saved.
That's why i think every believer must be had something special in his life. If not,
then i think we should back in the bible, searching for what GOD has planned for you,
alone.
my friend was asked to tell about his life experienced. He is not tell us anything
, not because he isn't had any experiences, but because he said "this is just for me,
nothing special was happened in my life."
I know the truth in the bible, that GOD has plan for each of people that love
HIM and HIS desire is for every HIS child live in that plan. HIS plan is not just the
ordinary plan, but it is something that extraordinary. Wanna see proof ? Ask Jesus,
How come GOD himself make a way for every one that have sin to be saved.
That's why i think every believer must be had something special in his life. If not,
then i think we should back in the bible, searching for what GOD has planned for you,
alone.
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
My Life Principles or The Truth
For years my life principles build from family background, friends and what i learn. There is money management principles, success principles, family principles, how to make a relationship
principles, business principles, principles at work and many more.
Behind all of right or wrong, bad or good decisions that I thought or taken there is my life principles. Whatever the result is, I'm always think that I' m right.
Do you same as I do ?
But check this out, I realize that all of my life principles, it is build because all of the situation and condition that I've been through or learn. But what if I had a difference situation and condition ?
Is it I' m going to be had the same principles ?
For me, life principles is my foundation. Something that direct and decide my move. It is my absolute base. But what if something that I thought absolute base, could move ? Can I still see a reason in the same perception after many years decision that I taken ?
I don't think so, do you ?
Is there is something that can't change ? Something that in the past , present or future still the same so we can choose that for a life principles ? For me there is one thing that can't change, even the situation is good or bad , it is the words of God.
The standard is clear and not in the gray area and absolutely can't move.
Now, if I'm dealing with one decision , I learn to see it from another perception. My principles or the absolute truth in words of GOD. I choose the unchanged truth.
Thursday, June 26, 2008
From The Inside Out
Put fish in the water, it swim although no one tell it to do.
Put eagle in the sky, it fly although no one show how to fly,
that's why you never found eagle fallen from the sky and walk.
Now, put a guitar in the hand of guitarist. People placed around
the leader. Stone and cement around bob the builder. Sick man
around the doctor. Lost direction man around the motivator.
You and I know well, what would happen after that.
Guitarist play that guitar.
The leader organize and direct people.
Bob the builder, build a building.
Doctor heal the sick man.
The motivator will motivated that lost direction man.
No one tell them what they have to do, they just run they role.
Because they knew well, who they are. They not found who
they are by a minute. It takes time and courage to move forward.
Step by step , stone by stone, man by man to answer they highest calling.
Calling that even have to sacrifice themselves.
Because , we are build with God hands, created in Jesus Christ to do
goodness that God has prepared before. God want us to live in HIS plans.
So, what is your highest calling ? Found it from GOD.
Lompatan atau Satu Langkah Maju ?
Seberapa jauh anda hari ini mengejar ketertinggalan diri anda ?
Setiap orang memiliki kondisi dimana berhadapan dengan hal-hal
baru seumur hidupnya. Suka tidak suka selalu ada perubahan dan
perubahan itu selalu menghasilkan kondisi yang sama, memulai
dari awal sehingga biasanya tidak begitu menyenangkan ( pada awalnya ).
Coba ingat-ingat saat pertama kali :
- Masuk sekolah setelah kenaikan kelas ( Pelajaran makin banyak )
- Mendapatkan pekerjaan baru / promosi ( Penyesuaian tugas baru )
- Bisnis lama sudah tidak menjanjikan, sehingga perlu berkembang.
- Bisnis baru sungguh menjanjikan tetapi melihat hal lebih besar sehingga
perlu ambil resiko memulai yang baru. ( tantangan baru )
- Pasangan yang mulai berubah ( hubungan yang didewasakan )
Jadi apa yang akan anda lakukan ? Perubahan seperti tamu yang sudah pasti datang ,
hanya saja belum tahu kapan, tapi anda bisa merasakannya.
Satu hal yang saya pelajari dalam hal ini, apabila kesuksesan masa lalu dijadikan ukuran
maka membuat orang tidak berani untuk gagal atau mengalami penurunan demi hal baik
yang berada di depannya.
Merasa jadi seperti junior lagi ketika belajar hal yang baru ? Diejek ketika bertanya hal-hal
yang kedengarannya sederhana tapi kita memang belum mengerti ? Dulu anda bekerja di
kantor ber-AC tetapi sekarang anda keluar masuk pasar demi bisnis baru anda ?
Itu mungkin yang anda alami, itu yang saya alami. Tetapi itu bukan masalah, karena saya perlu
mengejar kemajuan diri saya. Anda pun perlu, karena anda dan saya mengerti ada hal besar
yang sudah menanti di depan.
Monday, June 23, 2008
That's Why I'm Here
Have you ever lost strenght ? Hopes and courages lost
in the air, gone in the middle storm of life.
Have you ever lost sight ? everythings that you build
gone in a minute.
Can you move forward ? Can you see a light in the dark ?
Think about this one, as a father you can't quit
because of your son and wife need you. As a single
parents you can't quit because of your family.
As an adult you can't quit because your mom or
someone that around you. As a leader you can't quit
because of your follower. As a musician you
can't quit because of your audience.
You and i are live in the center stage of life. You and
i are put in a life that people can see or maybe depend on
your life, your decisions, your courages.
Find one good reason. You'll find it and even when
you can't find it, step forward ... someone would get
courage from your step.
That's why the reason you and i move forward.
in the air, gone in the middle storm of life.
Have you ever lost sight ? everythings that you build
gone in a minute.
Can you move forward ? Can you see a light in the dark ?
Think about this one, as a father you can't quit
because of your son and wife need you. As a single
parents you can't quit because of your family.
As an adult you can't quit because your mom or
someone that around you. As a leader you can't quit
because of your follower. As a musician you
can't quit because of your audience.
You and i are live in the center stage of life. You and
i are put in a life that people can see or maybe depend on
your life, your decisions, your courages.
Find one good reason. You'll find it and even when
you can't find it, step forward ... someone would get
courage from your step.
That's why the reason you and i move forward.
Friday, June 20, 2008
Forgive
People said time will heal pain. But you and i that
was hurt know well, time can't heal your heart. It
just covered for a while. Wanna prove ?
Try this one, have you ever broken heart ? There are
many reason, might be was leave alone by your father,
or maybe by your fiancee, or maybe by your best friend.
Day by day, time is moving forward, and you said, "Now my
heart is not hurt any more even if i think about that
time i were left."
But try to discuss that condition, try to talk about
that time you were left and hurt. Details when your
best friend betray you, details when you were left in
your future planning by your fiancee , details when your
dad left you and your mom. Who's coming in front
of your door ? that pain comes again. Your heart is
scratch again.
Time can't heal hurt, it just covered for a while.
But there is one way to be heal, maybe it's take time
but soon it will be heal, forever. How come ? By
forgive.
If hurt is your decision so forgive then. You and
i need forgive. Why should i ? That man were make a
mistake, my dad make a mistake, my fiancee make
a mistake .. why should i do gave them a forgiveness ?
Cause you and i were forgive by Jesus Christ. One
statement that conclude all the reason. So .. would
you and i give the best present, forgiveness ?
was hurt know well, time can't heal your heart. It
just covered for a while. Wanna prove ?
Try this one, have you ever broken heart ? There are
many reason, might be was leave alone by your father,
or maybe by your fiancee, or maybe by your best friend.
Day by day, time is moving forward, and you said, "Now my
heart is not hurt any more even if i think about that
time i were left."
But try to discuss that condition, try to talk about
that time you were left and hurt. Details when your
best friend betray you, details when you were left in
your future planning by your fiancee , details when your
dad left you and your mom. Who's coming in front
of your door ? that pain comes again. Your heart is
scratch again.
Time can't heal hurt, it just covered for a while.
But there is one way to be heal, maybe it's take time
but soon it will be heal, forever. How come ? By
forgive.
If hurt is your decision so forgive then. You and
i need forgive. Why should i ? That man were make a
mistake, my dad make a mistake, my fiancee make
a mistake .. why should i do gave them a forgiveness ?
Cause you and i were forgive by Jesus Christ. One
statement that conclude all the reason. So .. would
you and i give the best present, forgiveness ?
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
The Most
Get a pen, write in your notes, named five that
the most important thing in your life. Sort from the highest
priority. I'm writing mine.
1. Relationship.
2. All of my family.
3. Health.
4. Good friends.
5. My saving , money, job.
Are you finish ? if not then tried to write that before
you continue to read.
Are you sure that you wrote is the most important thing
in your life ?
Well done.
Do you realize that the most important thing in our life
can lost ? mine is. Could you imagine what if the most
important thing that you wrote gone one by one.
Try to erase the number 5. What do you feel now ? upset ?
Try to erase the number 4. What do you feel now ? sad ?
or maybe mad ?
Try to erase the number 3. What do you feel now ? confuse ?
no hope anymore ?
Try to erase the number 2. What do you feel now ? alone ?
Try to erase the number 1. What do you feel now ? rejected ?
the world is gone ?
I did. I realize that i lost these five things, it
can change my life so dramatically.
Until i heard the voice, GOD voice. " I gave, the greatest
love that anyone could ever know. My son Jesus, to covered up
your sin so you can saved."
From there, i know ... i can loose my most important things
but i can't loose Jesus. From there, i know the most
important thing in my life.
the most important thing in your life. Sort from the highest
priority. I'm writing mine.
1. Relationship.
2. All of my family.
3. Health.
4. Good friends.
5. My saving , money, job.
Are you finish ? if not then tried to write that before
you continue to read.
Are you sure that you wrote is the most important thing
in your life ?
Well done.
Do you realize that the most important thing in our life
can lost ? mine is. Could you imagine what if the most
important thing that you wrote gone one by one.
Try to erase the number 5. What do you feel now ? upset ?
Try to erase the number 4. What do you feel now ? sad ?
or maybe mad ?
Try to erase the number 3. What do you feel now ? confuse ?
no hope anymore ?
Try to erase the number 2. What do you feel now ? alone ?
Try to erase the number 1. What do you feel now ? rejected ?
the world is gone ?
I did. I realize that i lost these five things, it
can change my life so dramatically.
Until i heard the voice, GOD voice. " I gave, the greatest
love that anyone could ever know. My son Jesus, to covered up
your sin so you can saved."
From there, i know ... i can loose my most important things
but i can't loose Jesus. From there, i know the most
important thing in my life.
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Border of Nation
Every nation has a border. The border laid in the ocean,
air or land. Usualy ever border between nation protected
by national army or guard by a radar , to captured anyone
that tried to enter that country. No one would get into another country, except they has a
permission.
Every nation has a rule, every kingdom has a rule.
There is one kingdom we were living now. You can choose
between the kingdom of God or the kingdom of demon. But one
thing you and i should aware, every kingdom has a rule.
If you're living in the kingdom of God:
1. Everything that happen in HIS kingdom, GOD is in
controlled. Nothing happen to hurt us, just for rebuke
us and get the special things that GOD offered to us.
2. God has rule too, many of us said "God, you are Jehovah
Jireh." But how come that would happen if you're not
get a job ? so, we must get all in the bible. Do the one
and not forget the others.
3. God has His own time. Trust HIM to do the best for
your life, even there is many reason to get worried.
air or land. Usualy ever border between nation protected
by national army or guard by a radar , to captured anyone
that tried to enter that country. No one would get into another country, except they has a
permission.
Every nation has a rule, every kingdom has a rule.
There is one kingdom we were living now. You can choose
between the kingdom of God or the kingdom of demon. But one
thing you and i should aware, every kingdom has a rule.
If you're living in the kingdom of God:
1. Everything that happen in HIS kingdom, GOD is in
controlled. Nothing happen to hurt us, just for rebuke
us and get the special things that GOD offered to us.
2. God has rule too, many of us said "God, you are Jehovah
Jireh." But how come that would happen if you're not
get a job ? so, we must get all in the bible. Do the one
and not forget the others.
3. God has His own time. Trust HIM to do the best for
your life, even there is many reason to get worried.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Have you judge a book from it's cover ?
Do you realize that every one was judge from the others ? at least one time. What is your feeling if someone judging your act , your face , your job or even your wife ( ... ) . I don't know what is someone judge from you.
But maybe i do know the feeling is , there are two common feelings, good feelings or bad feelings. That is common situation that you and i face nowadays.
My mentor gave me one wise thought, "Do not try to control what you can't controlled."
Judgement is something that we can't control, try to control it .. you will get tired soon or later, cause you have to pleased people.
So .. what should we do ? Here is the truth , you and i created by God with at least one ability or specialty. No one in the earth is same as you. Try to search the finger prints, you won't get same finger prints.
You and i special hand made ... so when there is judgement about yourself .. don't get so serious take that, keep your feelings is good.
But maybe i do know the feeling is , there are two common feelings, good feelings or bad feelings. That is common situation that you and i face nowadays.
My mentor gave me one wise thought, "Do not try to control what you can't controlled."
Judgement is something that we can't control, try to control it .. you will get tired soon or later, cause you have to pleased people.
So .. what should we do ? Here is the truth , you and i created by God with at least one ability or specialty. No one in the earth is same as you. Try to search the finger prints, you won't get same finger prints.
You and i special hand made ... so when there is judgement about yourself .. don't get so serious take that, keep your feelings is good.
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
How far would you go ?
My friend tell me about his life, so difficult .. so hard .. and of course not an easy life. He ask me how come in the earth that live so many people , he is the one that have to suffer. Why me ? Why my family ? Why my job ?
I'm trying to help him , so i ask him one question. What is your vision in this world ? He Answered, " I want to have a good job , married one day , have a kids and give something special for my parents .. i want they to be happy and proud of me ".
"It's that all ?" , i asked him again. "Yes, is not not enough ? " , He asked back.
"Would you die to make that things happen ? ", i give him one question again.
He just quiet. Can't answer. I saw he is thinking about my question.
"Would you die to make that things happen ? ", i repeated my question again.
"I never thought before. I don't know.", My friend answered.
"You see, if you don't have something to do in your life that cost all of your life, you will give up to continues your life. But if you have that vision for your life, even there are so many difficulties , you wouldn't stop, you can't stop . You will go to that vision and overcome that barrier."
I'm trying to help him , so i ask him one question. What is your vision in this world ? He Answered, " I want to have a good job , married one day , have a kids and give something special for my parents .. i want they to be happy and proud of me ".
"It's that all ?" , i asked him again. "Yes, is not not enough ? " , He asked back.
"Would you die to make that things happen ? ", i give him one question again.
He just quiet. Can't answer. I saw he is thinking about my question.
"Would you die to make that things happen ? ", i repeated my question again.
"I never thought before. I don't know.", My friend answered.
"You see, if you don't have something to do in your life that cost all of your life, you will give up to continues your life. But if you have that vision for your life, even there are so many difficulties , you wouldn't stop, you can't stop . You will go to that vision and overcome that barrier."
Do you open your life ?
Have you seen a glass that full of water ? Try to fill that glass with another water. You can't right ? Because that glass is already full. But before you do that , try to waste that water and then try to fill that glass again. Hahaha , that glass can fill with new water.
I learn about this thing when i feel that my life is stuck .. not moving forward .. day by day nothing progress happen. I keep my life for myself .. everything just for myself. Until i hit the wall .. hmm ... so i start with open up my life to my friend. I throw my water .. and then guess what ? My glass is filled again.
My life is moving forward.
I learn about this thing when i feel that my life is stuck .. not moving forward .. day by day nothing progress happen. I keep my life for myself .. everything just for myself. Until i hit the wall .. hmm ... so i start with open up my life to my friend. I throw my water .. and then guess what ? My glass is filled again.
My life is moving forward.
Start Over, Continues or just Stoped.
In life , i think every one was through one thing
that it called , failed , falling or lose .
This is a word that i think no ones like it so much.
Every one like to be a winner, champion, paying high,
promoted, i did. but it cannot close the fact about
sometimes we are failed. We did not expect that, but
in a second later, failed is waiting in front of
the door.
There are three ways to do after we face to face with
the fails.
1. We can start over
I Did this before, after i face to face with
fails. I decided to start over every things
, i throw out every things and i said "let's
start from the beginning ". Do you same as me ?
if did , then maybe you want to consider this..
we can't erase our past , not even one single
"dot". The past will be in of your life. Maybe
nobody know it, but you did.
2. Stopped
We think my world is ruined. Every things is
useless. Nothing left, just shame, tears or
maybe broken hope. So we decided to stopped.
Hide in our rooms, playing video games days
and night, retreat from people, working days
and night. Maybe we are not commit a suicide, we
still alive but, hiding, somewhere ..stopped.
3. Continues
This step is the one i choose today. I deal with
my fails .. every single fail that i made. I can't change the
past. What about my shame, broken hope and
tears ? Do you think if i face my fails everything is already ok ?
... no ... in many times that fails still there .. but i deal with them
Today my tears is dropped .. but tomorrow i will sing.
Today my hope is broken .. but tomorrow i will have faith.
Today i'm shame ... but tomorrow i would proud.
I'm continues my life.
that it called , failed , falling or lose .
This is a word that i think no ones like it so much.
Every one like to be a winner, champion, paying high,
promoted, i did. but it cannot close the fact about
sometimes we are failed. We did not expect that, but
in a second later, failed is waiting in front of
the door.
There are three ways to do after we face to face with
the fails.
1. We can start over
I Did this before, after i face to face with
fails. I decided to start over every things
, i throw out every things and i said "let's
start from the beginning ". Do you same as me ?
if did , then maybe you want to consider this..
we can't erase our past , not even one single
"dot". The past will be in of your life. Maybe
nobody know it, but you did.
2. Stopped
We think my world is ruined. Every things is
useless. Nothing left, just shame, tears or
maybe broken hope. So we decided to stopped.
Hide in our rooms, playing video games days
and night, retreat from people, working days
and night. Maybe we are not commit a suicide, we
still alive but, hiding, somewhere ..stopped.
3. Continues
This step is the one i choose today. I deal with
my fails .. every single fail that i made. I can't change the
past. What about my shame, broken hope and
tears ? Do you think if i face my fails everything is already ok ?
... no ... in many times that fails still there .. but i deal with them
Today my tears is dropped .. but tomorrow i will sing.
Today my hope is broken .. but tomorrow i will have faith.
Today i'm shame ... but tomorrow i would proud.
I'm continues my life.
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Light from the land
I've read from books that what is the purpose a light from the land. If there is a fisherman in the ocean with storm , how could the fisherman find the safeties place to hold on ?
He can tried to find another boat .. but he will get some mess around there, because that another boat would not give nothing , their direction would blur cause the storm change the direction.
So the fisherman would try to find light, a special light , light from the land. Because light from the land would give a certainty .. there is safeties place on the storm, The Land. The fisherman will tried to get out from the storm to the land.
What we can see it for our life ? we need direction , maybe sickness , loneliness will cause the blind spot to our life direction. We through hours and hours for nothing , searching for something that can pleased us .
We need something to hold on. Something that would give us direction to the safeties place. We need vision.
So guys, find your vision before it's to late when the storm is coming.
He can tried to find another boat .. but he will get some mess around there, because that another boat would not give nothing , their direction would blur cause the storm change the direction.
So the fisherman would try to find light, a special light , light from the land. Because light from the land would give a certainty .. there is safeties place on the storm, The Land. The fisherman will tried to get out from the storm to the land.
What we can see it for our life ? we need direction , maybe sickness , loneliness will cause the blind spot to our life direction. We through hours and hours for nothing , searching for something that can pleased us .
We need something to hold on. Something that would give us direction to the safeties place. We need vision.
So guys, find your vision before it's to late when the storm is coming.
Journey from Faith
Life ... something that we have after we born. We can't choose it , we can choose what we would eat, wear or hobbies we like now, but Life after born is something that we can't choose.
It is a gift , why i can tell you that because before we were born , our mommy and dad have sex, thousand of dad sperm fighting , running to find our mother and you know what ?? only one sperm win .. you and i born with one potential spirit, The winner.
So .. how come you would let someone said that you are a looser ? or maybe you just did it for yourself ? No guys , don't let anyone tell you are a looser. You and i chosen to be a winner.
This is our life , our precious life .... let start our journey from faith.
It is a gift , why i can tell you that because before we were born , our mommy and dad have sex, thousand of dad sperm fighting , running to find our mother and you know what ?? only one sperm win .. you and i born with one potential spirit, The winner.
So .. how come you would let someone said that you are a looser ? or maybe you just did it for yourself ? No guys , don't let anyone tell you are a looser. You and i chosen to be a winner.
This is our life , our precious life .... let start our journey from faith.
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